Something is wrong..

We are changing but something is not right...

We are calling people bad, but we aren't changing the bad in us...
We want a change in everything but we are not willing to initiate the change.
We are growing.. but something is not right.

We share videos about trees yet don't stop people from cutting them
We are worried about pollution, but can't give up on our cars.
We are evolving yet something is not right.

The youth is getting high with alcohol..
And then raping an innocent to get low.
We like empowerment of women, yet we are not improving our men
We are a civilized society,but something is not right.

We are happy blaming the media for the news content, but we are not watching the age old doordarshan news which hasn't changed.
We are criticizing bollywood for making us corrupt, but we haven't stopped watching the same movies with fun.
Yes, we are progressing, but something is not right.

We love the videos of a guy buying all products of a person at once, but we cannot give a real beggar a penny.
We want everything for free, yet we dont do anything for someone who will never be able to afford it.
We talk about equality, but something is not right.

We are blaming the cops for corruption but do not stop at breaking rules.
We are blaming the governments for indecisiveness, but never support on any decisions they take.
We support, but something just is not right.

We relate religion to various things but never take time to open and read the religious books.
We open a book everyday, but never take time to check its credibility before sharing it.
We are responsible people, but something is not right.

There is a lot that has to change, there is a lot we have to do, there is a lot that we are responsible for, there is a lot we will be held responsible, the choice is ours.

Change is brought when one person changes himself and inspires, change is not when someone asks you to do it. It is time to come together and come alive and be the change rather than hoping for a change.

DREAM because it counts

Dream, everyone dreams of something. Right from our childhood we have been dreaming. Dreams have done wonders to people, followers of dreams have lived a very happy and a satisfied life. We often say dreams are what we see while we sleep, but that however is not true. Dreams are way larger than what we see while we sleep.

Remember your childhood when you would use your mom’s dupatta, tie it around your neck and run around the house thinking you are superman and could fly, this was a dream and you were living it. Look at how happy you were back then.

While playing when you used to use your hand as a gun and point and fire on people and they would react as if you were a real cop, the bullets were as if really hitting them and they were dying, that was a dream and you were living it. Look at how happy you were back then.

As a little girl, you would have a small cooking set where you would pretend to cook and serve people. You would warn people to not touch the vessels as they were hot as well. Your family would taste everything that was there (even though it was empty) and react as if you had made something which was literally out of the world. This was a dream and you were living it. Look at how happy you were back then.

You stand in the shower and sing songs. You feel as if a thousand people are looking at you and cheering you. You feel like a Rockstar. Sometimes you sing especially for someone as if that someone was right there. This was a dream and you were living it. Look at how happy you were back then.

Dreams make you happy, they make you feel content, make you feel satisfied. They make you feel the real you. The problem is when our dreams break. When dreams break, you always feel a jerk, a sense of being incomplete whether you are watching a dream while you sleep or while you are up. Breaking of dreams creates a doubt on yourself. You feel as if something was taken away from you. It’s the same feeling when you take a candy away from a year old kid. Suddenly the world feels to be standing against you. One dream makes a lot of difference. Maybe you spent an entire lifetime thinking about something, and realize now that it’s not going to happen, it is not going to work. It feels as if your entire life has gone meaningless, whatever you did till date has become worthless. A lot of the times we ourselves are responsible for breaking our dreams but the feeling is still the same, Being incomplete, dissatisfied everything is the same.

 The world currently runs behind money so much that we have forgotten this precious thing called dreams. It’s become a thing only for our sleep. A wise man once said dreams are things that don’t let you sleep.

“Living a dream is happy life. Killing a dream is Ending life.”

Learn to say "NO"

‘N’ for No and ‘N’ for Negative. This is what we have been fed with since childhood. “Never say Never”, “Can’t, Won’t etc. shouldn’t be in your dictionary”, sounds good eh? Well, everything written above is really motivating, but is ‘No’ really a word that’s negative? The answer lies in the example given.

Gautama is a dedicated worker of a company who finishes all his work on time and gives great productivity in the project. One day his manager comes to him and assigns him a job of which Gautama knows nothing about. In his head Gautama knows he cannot do it and will be very difficult for him to do it. But he knows “Answer AFFIRMATIVELY in the company rule” so he instantly tells the manager “yes Anil, I will do this”.  Slowly Gautama begins work and tries to find out about the job assigned to him. After trying very hard for a week Gautama still isn’t able to do an in-depth analysis of the job assigned. Moreover, slowly and steadily a tension was building in his head as to what answer will he give to his manager? What will the team think about him? What if he fails in front of his manager and their bosses? All these questions start circling Gautama. Finally the day comes. The day of the deadline. Whatever little Gautama understood he explained in the best possible way he could. But it wasn’t enough to please the bosses who gave a bad review about his work. A sincere, dedicated man that Gautama failed for the first time. This failure got onto him and took a toll of his normal work. His productivity decreased day by day. He started being scared by his team members, by his managers. And all this finally led to Gautama being served a three month notice to find a new job. A dedicated worker of the company and now within a month he does not matter anymore to the company.

The question his could things have changed. Could things have been better for Gautama? The answer is yes!!  Surprisingly the answer you will read will be totally against what you have learnt till date.

Had Gautama clearly stated that ‘NO’ he has no knowledge about the job and would be better if someone else with more knowledge could do the job, his life would have turned completely to what it is today? Yes the manager would have thought something and might feel bad as you are declining the work he has decided to give to you. But given the sincerity and productivity Gautama had in the team it would have been a matter of few days when the manager would again pat his back. Yeah, Gautama could turn the tables even after he messed up the job, quite possible isn’t it? True, But doing something when your morale and self-esteem is touching the earth’s core, it’s a daunting task on its own.

        Thus to see carefully, ‘No’ isn’t a negative word, in fact, it is an affirmative word when used in the correct way. Yeah, the above rule doesn’t apply on Mom’s, Girlfriend’s and wives and use them only at your own risk!! 

Is Knowledge enough?...

KNOWLEDGE IS BLISS

Right from our childhood everyone around is trying to impart knowledge to us. Our parents were the first, our teachers followed up. Then our teachers coupled with our parents kept giving knowledge. Soon enough we were getting knowledge from Suresh and Ramesh and their mom's. Some neighbouring aunty poured all her knowledge on us and this process kept going. In this process of gaining knowledge we were also often compared to dogs, cats, fish markets, and what not. So much to gain knowledge. 

Now comes a point where I start to think is the knowledge worth all the pains we took till today? I am 21 on the date I am writing this which means I have gained knowledge for 21 years. All these years I spent have been a lot of work, pain and hardships and today I think is my knowledge enough for me to stand on my feet? Is it enough to get me a job? Is it enough to keep me moving? Is it enough to face the world? Will the knowledge I have help me on it's own? 

Knowledge is a must. It is something you ought to have. It is something that will stay with you at every turn of your life. But knowledge alone cannot save you. Knowledge alone won't help you in today's world. If There are two people you have to select from, One has complete knowledge about things, knows theoretically everything but seems to be slower when it comes to applying that knowledge, whereas the other person has lesser knowledge, but seems to be way quicker in applying it and learning things, whom would you select? I am sure you would go to the second person. With the world fast growing pure knowledge will not take you anywhere. Knowledge now has become something any skillfull person can attain fast. In contrast, Skill is something every knowledgable person cannot attain real fast. With the movies like 3 Idiots and all showing knowledge to be the king and queen of this world, be assured, A knowledgeable Skillfull person is what you need to be to grow in life. 

To the people who are yet to start their careers, try  building your skills because you already have a lot of knowledge. Start showcasing the skills you have, and sharpen them to an extent where no one can ignore you. Let your skills shine because every person you will compete with in your career will have knowledge and the only thing that would make you stand out is your skills.

The Reason you FAIL...

                                   FAILURES ARE

                                                        STEPPING STONES 

                                                                                       TO SUCCESS

We often want to do things, we try and try a lot, but then we realize it is something we cannot do. We term this as a FAILURE to do that particular thing. Once you fail, people come to you and say "it's ok.. atleast you tried", "It's just not the right time, you should have waited", "Attempt is more important than the outcome". Well, all of it sounds good and true, but the question is why did we fail?

When this question comes, we begin our analysis. We start analyzing every step and make note of the points we did wrong. We realize every mistake we made and we learn from them. So now we are ready. We again make the calls and we re-launch. We take off, This time we are all sure of the success but we fail again. What could be the reason of our failure this time? 

We can do these analysis again and again, but things won't change a lot. The reason I say this is because the real reason of our failure lies even before we start the implementation. Everytime we fail, we analyze which step went wrong, but we never analyze the things before that. Our success or failure depends on what we think about ourselves when we do something. Lets take a simple example of an interview. We wait outside the interview room anxiously, everytime a person comes out we try to ask them a range of questions from how was it, how was the interviewer to what were you asked etc. I remember during one of my interviews where a a particular room was declared as the room of rejection and everyone who was lined outside that was sure about failure. When we ask these questions to people, we tend to create an image of the interviewer and we try to understand what is it that the interviewer wants. Instead of focussing on our strengths, our focus shifts to what does the interviewer want to listen. When your chance comes for the interview, you are so confused in trying to change yourself, all you tell yourself is " God save me today.. aaj to lag gaye ". You did not back yourself enough and left everything to destiny just before you entered the final test. You are bound to fail this interview. 

Try looking at your failures once again, and everywhere you will realize that you did not trust yourself enough to make it a success. You failed because you left too much for destiny to do. You failed because you beleived in everything others said rather than following your own instincts. You failed because you did not back your strengths, but kept adjusting to the needs and deeds of the surroundings. You will keep failing if you do not take a step now. 

The room termed as the rejection room had a lot of students getting selected after one of them cleared the round. That one person backed himself to get through, and was SUCCESSFUL. 

A Letter to Managers

Dear Managers,

You have done a lot in life and your experience has made you what you are today. Those years of hard work you did have all paid off and now you have been made a manager. There is no doubting that you truly deserved this position. In this position there are a lot of responsibilities that have got assigned to you along with the targets for you and your teams. You would certainly be on your way achieving it but........

Sir, It is important for you to understand that without your team you can never achieve your goal. In fact, you are a manager only because the team existed. Please value the team as much as you value your goals. We understand you might have faced a lot of bad in your life when you were a team member, but sir, do you think avenging it by a similar behavior with the team is correct? It would seem correct if you do not do what your manager did with you because that would show that you learnt. It is ofcourse your choice as to how you would behave, but remember, it will be the team member's choice then on how he behaves back.

A team member can fall sick, a team member can meet with an accident, a team members close one can get hospitalized. These are not some excuses for leaves sir, these could be genuine. You have been assigned as the manager inorder to look and understand who is genuine and who isn't. Just because someone lied to you does not mean every team member will lie to you. Also, Leaves are a real petty issue, please do not make a fuss out of them even after the team member is doing all his work diligently. It's a moral right of an employee to take rights, but if you do not approve them when needed, it is as good as food tied to a dog's tail... It is present, but the dog cannot eat it.

Everyone in the team has a self respect and self esteem. Please try not to hurt these. You will get respect on your face because of the manager tag but you will never be respected from the heart if you hurt people. Sir, consider the team as your family. Replace your team members with your son/daughter and think would they be happy if their manager was behaving the way you did. Behave the way you would a manager to behave with your family members and you will notice the difference from the team members as well.

Last but not the least, sir, Stop judging the team by the amount of hours one works for. If a member sits overtime for the allocated work, does not mean he is more dedicated, it means he was not capable of doing it in the timeline. A lot of your team members would be from various cities outside your office location and a lot would be from within the city. An outstation guy works overtime not because he cares extra for the company, it is because he doesn't have thing to do outside... No family, no friends. Please stop comparing it with people who live within the city who have things to do apart from office. 

Sir. A change in behavior can do wonders for you and the team. Try it once and you will be surprised to see what happens.

Sincerely yours,

A dedicated team member
who respects you.

Let's Think of the Male Community too.

In this world where everyone is talking about feminism, I intend to talk around what goes on being a guy in the country. 

I was around 8 years old when I fell down from the middle berth of a train and got hurt. I was crying and crying so loudly that I acted as an alarm clock for the entire coach. My mom was tensed and checking if I was hurt. People around were starring and then came a few very sweet aunties. They sat near me and started talking. In an attempt for them to make me quiet all of them repeated "Tum ladke ho na.. ladke thodi na rote hai.. chalo bas karo..ladke bano.. Ladke to strong heat hai" (You are a guy and guys don't cry.. Stop it now and be a guy.. Guys have to be strong). Surprisingly, I

Got quiet and slept back easily after that. At the age of 8, I was told boys don't cry. Just like A for apple was fixed in my mind, this too got fixed. Even today people are preaching the same. Every guy who lives here now knows he is not allowed to show his emotions on the outside. He cannot express them because BOYS DO NOT CRY. If they do, the joke is on them.

Since a few years, after crimes against women have increased, all men are looked upon with doubt. Be it 12 noon or 12 midnight, If a girl sees a guy walking behind her because co-incidentally, his house is in the same lane as hers, she will still look at him with a doubtful eye. All men are not criminals. There are men who care and respect women and we would certainly not want to be doubted on every nook and corner.

Being a Man is a tough job here. At 28, a girl would expect the guy to have his own house and car and every luxury to marry him. By Birth its the responsibility of the boy to be protective, whether or not he knows anything about protection. A guy cannot walk back being scared or else he is trolled upon by others. A boy has to face every goon, every thug no matter what the issue is, he can never back down. If he has everything mentioned above, the guy should be smart, handsome, talented, single, caring, loving, sophisticated, ambitious, idealistic, non-comparable, hot, dashing, star like, awesome, funny, happy, satisfied, comfortable, helpful, rich enough and the guy should listen to the women, help her with the household chores, should keep the beard as per the wish of the girl, should cut hair as the woman wishes etc. ... And only if he satisfies all of it, chances are some girl would marry him.

It's not the fault of anyone in particular. The society has been made this way. But don't we think it's a little too much to expect so much from a single person, having a single soul like everyone. Even a washing machine does not have so many features an ideal guy is expected to have as per society standards. Ladies, stop looking for a guy who is an idea, look for someone with whom you can make your life ideal. It is time we think a little about the male community too because

"MARD KO DARD HOTA HAI"